Week 5: Where Am I Going?
When I was about 12, I had a friend in middle school who was dating this kid who went to another school outside of our town. She was not dating him too long before he cheated on her with a girl from his school. At the time as young as we were, our emotions towards situations were very real. That situation got the best of her. One day I remember her walking down the hall meeting me for lunch and the next day she didn't come to school. Later we found out that she killed herself. She drunk bleach. I remember the feeling i felt vividly. A feeling of being robbed, her life just being wasted. We were so young then, too young to really understand that having a boyfriend or even being bullied would only be season in our life. Unfortunately, she never got the chance to see her life through. Instead the decision she made was based off of a temporary season.
How often do we make hasty decisions off of a temporary situations that cost us?
The past few weeks we have been on a journey to know how to maximize our season of living. In doing so we learned that there are 5 questions you must ask in order to maximize our lives. We have talked about understanding identity, heritage, purpose, potential/ability, and now we cover hope through the question:
Last time we talked about what we can do with our potential and ability once we know who we are, where we are from, and why we are here. To maximize our whole life however, hope is needed. A life without hope will always submit to suicide and sometimes even when we may not commit suicide physically, we abandon and kill our purpose long before it even starts. In certain seasons we go through, we make decisions at time, especially when things may not work out how "we" would want them to. Having a false since of where you are going in life can be DANGEROUS. Hope is the very essence that speaks softly but strong. It is have expectation and desire.
Suicide has been a major cause of death in teens due to a number of things, but mainly bullying. I did not intend to speak on suicide among teens, but reading on the story about the two teens who committed suicide one after another about two weeks ago struck a string in my heart. I realize that not only teens but adults deal with suicide as well in many ways. When there is not an expectation where your life is going, then the sense of "why" starts to creep in. Eventually you find yourself giving up on YOU, your purpose. I realized that in order to raise up children to expect greatness out of there lives so they can hold on and hang in there through the difficult, painful seasons, WE must be examples of that. We must teach them how to expect and desire to live a life of meaning. How do we teach them?
You must see where your life is going and where you are headed. Your life is far more valuable than you may sometimes think. With every question we have answered over the last few weeks there is one thing that is true. If we are not from here, then our destination does not end here! So why do we let "here" effect our destination?
We cannot leave here empty. I surely know that I don't. There is too much inside you to commit suicide and abandon your purpose. In painful situations and when we have lost everything, it's hard at times to see that everything will be okay. Your purpose, why you are here cannot be abandon at the sign of change and trouble. There is too much at steak. People counting on you. You may not believe so because you may see yourself as useless, but you are not useless. There is a meaning why YOU ARE ALIVE. In knowing that, we cannot offered to have any more excuses or even to allow temporary seasons to dictate our whole life.
He has placed vision and purpose in you. Giving up robs others and yourself of the blessings that come from staying the course! No matter how hard it gets this year, no matter what is thrown at you, do not exchange the lens that leads you to your destination, keep pushing!
Have hope in God, that your life is not just what you see! Many people give up before even starting because they can not see where they are going. I cannot show you where you are going, nor can I tell you. What I do know is that when we have faith and hope in God, He leads us to our destination. You must have a relationship with Him and beyond that we must trust Him. Expect from Him that our life has meaning to it. Hope is the very thing that keeps us from committing suicide, giving up, and abandoning our purpose and our life. It may not always be when someone kills their selves for it to be suicide. Sometimes just making the decision to stop living can be the same. Either way God wants us to abide in hope.
Knowing why you are here is only part of what takes you to your destination. You must apply your purpose to life. There must be a forward movement and decision.
welcome god in. take a step forward. write out a plan. make moves. trust. believe. hope.
someone like you is not here by chance, but purpose. Live that purpose.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
1 Corinthians 13:13
"And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
"Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us."